The husband and I have known (and loved) each other for coming up on 10 years. It has been a journey. We’ve been together and apart. We’ve been high and low. We’ve witnessed new life and death. In all that we’ve been through there are two things I have learned about love.
1. Love is unconditional.
2. Love is not always enough.
If you are loving someone conditionally, it’s not really love. Love surpasses all else. Feelings of frustration, anger, resentment, love is bigger than all of those. They are fleeting. In the end you’ll find the love remains.
But that does not always mean that love is enough. No amount of love can save someone from themselves. JEW says it best: “You can’t keep safe what wants to break.” Sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go. It doesn’t mean you love them any less, it just means that you can no longer hold on and keep yourself afloat. Simple self preservation. Love is the life-line when you are adrift at sea, but only you can make the choice to navigate your way back home.
Love is so much more complex than I ever thought.